We are always BECOMING.
The choice of WHO we are becoming depends on US.
We often think we are where we are and who we are because of OTHER PEOPLE’S behavior or because of our CIRCUMSTANCES, but neither of those are true.
Emotional Adulthood means WE must accept FULL RESPONSIBILITY for OUR emotional lives and what WE are creating for ourselves every day.
That life is full of positive and negative emotions and that none of them are bad, but we can get better at PROCESSING THROUGH them.
True EMOTIONAL REGULATION is a skill I am learning in mid-life and I’m SO GRATEFUL for the support of my incredible coaches.
I used to blame my spouse, my children, or my current circumstances for how I handled a situation.
It took some growth and real honest reflection on MYSELF, but after working with my coach I began to see REAL CHANGE in MYSELF and how I handled situations and that was SO FREEING!
There was one time years ago, we were taking someone very special out for a birthday dinner.
We were driving separately because I was meeting everyone after work.
My husband and son drove separately and were in charge of bringing the gift we were to give.
When they arrived at the restaurant they realized they had left the present at home.
When I arrived I was greeted only by my son who was waiting for the table but said that my husband drove all the way back home to fetch the present and then had to drive all the way back to the restaurant.
When I asked why, he replied that he figured I would be upset that they had forgotten it.
I replied that we could have just dropped the gift off to her another day and felt badly he felt he had to do that.
Wow. First this thought made me feel SAD and SHAMEFUL that I had been “holding hostage” those I love by MY REACTIONS to the normal everyday situations in life!
That a “If Mama’s not happy, nobody’s happy” kind of scenario was taking place.
So, yes, I allowed myself to feel the sadness that this was who I USED TO BE at times, but ALSO, felt GREAT JOY that she is NOT who I AM ANYMORE!!!
My family may not have recognized yet that I WAS CHANGING and THAT’S OKAY!
My old PERFECTIONISM tendencies were starting to DROP OFF OF ME as I learned to LOVE MYSELF and ALLOW the FULL SPECTRUM of emotions into my world, especially those that challenged my heart to see I NO LONGER had to PRESENT MYSELF AS PERFECT.
I had learned that “Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.”
It made me feel sad that they used to be held captive to me being moody when things didn’t go as planned. But once I released the shame that caused, I REJOICED that I was no longer that girl anymore! I’d learned a NEW WAY to experience the ups and downs of life and I CAN TEACH YOU, TOO!
Because we don’t want to MINIMIZE our TRUE FEELINGS but rather learn how to be WILLING TO FEEL the FULL SPECTRUM of our God-designed existence!
Ready to become UNRECOGNIZABLE? Are YOU ready to BE SUPPORTED in YOUR GROWTH this NEW YEAR so YOU CAN CREATE a CHANGE in YOUR EXPERIENCE of YOUR LIFE? You deserve to invest in the type of MOTHER and WIFE and WOMAN YOU WANT TO BE GOING FORWARD and I CAN HELP! Hit the COACH with ME link and Let’s GO! Healed Mamas heal generations! 2026 is can be YOUR BEST YEAR YET! ~Be Blessed, Jenny xoxo
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~JENNY RIEFLIN MINISTRIES~ 