SYMBIS Pre-Marriage

The Purpose of SYMBIS

It’s never too early or too late to invest in your marriage! What better time to check on the health of your relationship than BEFORE you say “I Do.”

Oftentimes, much thought, preparation, and financial investment goes into planning a WEDDING, but not a MARRIAGE.

Just like with any big venture in life, when we fail to plan, we plan to fail.

When you’re in the blissful state of the dating and engagement period of your relationship, your brain fills you with emotions of love that cause you to believe your relationship is indestructible. No one wants to dwell on the parts of marriage that may present challenges and difficulties. Nobody makes plans to mistreat their future spouse. But the truth is over the course of a 50-60 year commitment, you will most definitely face hard things together. In fact, more than 50% of all marriages end in divorce (Christian marriages included).

The truth is you will sometimes be mistreated by your spouse and you will mistreat your spouse. You will be taken for granted by your spouse and you will take your spouse for granted. How do I know this? Because you are a human and you are marrying a human.

Marriage is a lifelong dance with one partner, of laying down your life, wants, and desires because that is what it means to be more like Christ and that is what Christ did for us. If you want to be married you must have your eyes be fully open that THIS is your curriculum for the rest of your life! To not only LOVE the feeling of being in love, but to LOVE what marriage actually is.

It’s a lifelong commitment to grow into the highest version of yourself and to study to learn your spouse like you would an advanced degree. To become skilled in walking in humility and unconditional love! Believing the best of each other, carrying each other’s burdens, and supporting each other’s dreams. When you are both up for the task and each “prefers one another” it can be “heaven on earth”. But don’t expect heaven on earth unless you’re willing to sacrifice. It means sometimes being sinned against and not sinning. It means forgiving and asking for forgiveness, again and again and again. And just because you will sometimes fail at loving well, it doesn’t mean you are failing. It means you are human. 

Learning beforehand and being equipped with the right tools to handle the things that come with the joining together of two different people, (from two different upbringings, with two different communication styles, differing strengths and weaknesses, and two completely different sets of personality traits) is vital to your success as a married couple and new family unit.

This is where the SYMBIS Assessment and a few sessions with a trained facilitator become a very valuable investment into your future.

The SYMBIS and the SYMBIS + Assessments were created by two of the top marriage experts, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott, and have been used by over 1,000,000 couples worldwide, facilitated by over 100,000 certified marriage mentors. Did you know that couples who invest in pre-marital training are 31% less likely to divorce?

Whether you are thinking about getting engaged, newly engaged, planning to re-marry, or have been married for decades, the right time to start working on building a strong foundation for your marriage is NOW!

My commitment

I would love to come alongside you as you embark on the most important journey of your life! To be someone in your corner to help you better understand each others unique gifts, personality traits, and communication styles, as well as uncover possible caution flags that may indicate future conflict, and give you some tools upfront to help you navigate these new waters of transition from being a single-player into a committed team-of-two!

Here are 10 questions the SYMBIS assessment addresses:

1. What is the momentum of your marriage?
2. What is your attitude or mindset towards marriage?
3. How does your personal wellbeing affect your marriage?
4. How do your two worlds combine on a practical level making sure they do not collide on an emotional level?
5. Do your financial goals match up?
6. What are the similarities and differences of your two personalities together?
7. How do you each define love?
8. How do you like your partner to communicate with you?
9. What your top five personal/individual needs are in your relationship?
10. Are you in sync with your spiritual beliefs as a couple?

What’s next? 4 Simple Steps:

1. Contact Jenny via the link below
2. Jenny will reach out to send you and your fiancé (or spouse if you’re already married) the Assessment Link
3. You and your fiancé will each take the Assessment separately***This will take approximately 30 minutes
4. Jenny will contact you with the results to set up a Zoom call to begin the process