As Mamas we tend to read all the baby books and then we get in the groove of parenting and life with little ones who very quickly become school-aged kiddos and before we know it they are grown.
But very often we find ourselves in the empty nest and wondering exactly why our adult child doesn’t seem to call us or include us in their life.
You may find yourself making passive-aggressive comments about how disappointed you are in their lack of communication with you.
I get it.
You’re hurt.
You thought you were closer than this.
You don’t know how you got to this place.
And you don’t know how to fix it.
But, what if nothing has gone wrong.
There’s no exact pattern or formula for relationships and we do ourselves more harm than good by comparing OUR relationship with OUR child, to Sister Sally’s relationship with her son Sammy!
What you crave is CONNECTION with your children. But saying, “You’d know what’s going on in my life if you actually called more!” is not going to produce the connection you desperately want.
If anything, it might make your child regret reaching out to you in the first place.
The truth is our adult children no longer need us to parent them. And I think that is a wonderful thing! You’ve done the work of raising them, disciplining them, and training them for adult life. While you will always be their parent (noun), you no longer have to parent (verb). Yay! When they make mistakes you’re no longer responsible for cleaning up their mess. You simply get to delight in them! Just like when they were first placed in your arms and all you knew inside was that you simply delighted in them just being. ❤️
You can purpose to enjoy this new season that holds much potential for wonder and beauty of a whole new dimension for the rest of your lives.
They may ask for advice and you may give it. But the best part is that you never ever have to stop cheering them on, believing the best of them, and covering them with the Word of God in prayer! These things are forever your right and authority as a Mama ❤️
P.S. If you want to know what’s new in your child’s life, you know how to use a phone, too 😘 You can stay as connected as you want. 🙂
If you find your relationship with your adult child challenging, please reach out by hitting the Coach with Me link today! I’d love to support you on your journey in this amazing season of parenting adult children! ~Be Blessed, Jenny xo
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~JENNY RIEFLIN MINISTRIES~ 