Have you ever had somebody in your life who just rubbed you the wrong way?
Somebody who seemed so difficult to love?
No matter what you do, they just seem to have something against you even though you haven’t done anything wrong.
One of the most profound things that I’ve learned from my life coach is the truth that it will always and forever be our THOUGHTS that create our FEELINGS and it’s our FEELINGS that drive our ACTIONS and thus the ACTIONS that give us the RESULT of OUR experience of our relationships.
Even when we think, “Nope, I feel this way because of what THEY did” it’s still the result of what WE are CHOOSING to THINK about what someone did.
And that this process is not just linear, but it’s cyclical, too!
C.S. Lewis is challenging us to realize that WE can change our THOUGHTS (and thus our FEELINGS) with ACTIONS of LOVE.
It’s one of God’s great secrets, that when we choose to “love our enemies and PRAY for those who persecute us” that action will cause COMPASSION and LOVE to well up on the inside of us for them.
If 1 Corinthians 13:5 says that LOVE is “not rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it KEEPS NO RECORD OF BEING WRONGED” then we can honestly say that we’ve NEVER been wronged! Wow, that is challenging!
We have the ability to ACT in LOVE by FAITH.
It doesn’t matter if we FEEL it yet or not.
Our false man, the old un-renewed mind, or our ego, doesn’t want to love them, it was programmed to protect itself.
It sees love and forgiveness as a WEAKNESS.
But don’t buy into the lie, because LOVE is ALWAYS the way to VICTORY!
It doesn’t mean that we can change anyone, that’s between them and God, but it does mean that YOU no longer will be bound to the yucky feelings of hate or animosity.
When we make the choice to PRAY for them, in earnest, something happens on the inside of us because that will shift our thoughts and our hearts to truly LOVE them.
To recognize how much they must be hurting in order to be operating in life from THEIR false self. That they are knowingly or not operating from FEAR and not LOVE (because there are only ever two options in this life) and being bound to fear is torture.
For they either KNOW CHRIST, and thus are able to operate from LOVE (their true self) or they are either still in DARKNESS, not knowing Christ, or they have temporarily slid back into their false self due to fear.
And both of those conditions should cause compassion to bubble up within us, because we, too, experience these daily.
Remember that your closest “neighbor” may possibly be the one who shares your bed and or lives under your roof. Those we love the most will have moments of acting from their false self due to fear.
Resist the temptation to protect your ego, and shift into LOVE, getting curious about what they must be feeling in order to be acting that way.
Because we can only LOVE or we can JUDGE, but LOVE feels so much better. ❤ ~Be Blessed, Jenny xoxo
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~JENNY RIEFLIN MINISTRIES~ 