I’m thinking of this concept as it applies to marriage, but it can be a good way to view any relationship in our lives.
The enemy loves division and works to influence the separation of any godly union, whether between spouses, parents and children, siblings, friends, or co-workers.
If he can succeed at getting us to see the other person as our enemy and not as a blessing of connection that God has brought into our lives, we will more easily walk away from the relationship.
But, when we intentionally choose to see every relationship as a benefit to our lives and recognize that when in a relationship we are actually two separate members of the same team, we can then choose to see any and every obstacle as an opportunity for growth and the chance to create a greater closeness.
The most meaningful relationships are with those that we GO THROUGH things with, right? And when we come out on the other side, there is a special connection that we have to that person. Even if it was just a stranger but you both were in the same place at the same time either witnessing something difficult or overcoming something dangerous. The struggles of our lives can unite us if we let them.
I challenge you that the next time a situation in your relationship comes up, before jumping AT the other person, (trying to protect your own interests) ask yourself, and maybe even them, “How can we tackle this problem together? This situation is trying to divide us. Let’s try to focus on being on the same team because we both ultimately want to experience peace in this and not confrontation.”
When we put our brains in that mode of seeking solutions, rather than seeing it as never to be solved, it will shift our mindset to begin to formulate resolutions. It may take a bit to hit the right one and may not be solved in one sitting. But you’ll not only get the ball rolling in the right direction, but you’ll both leave the conversation experiencing a wonderful feeling of connection. ❤
It’s like solving a puzzle or completing an obstacle TOGETHER! Conflict won’t seem as daunting when we see it as a challenge to overcome and grow stronger! Maybe even reward yourselves for handling things better and better!
Try it and let me know how it goes 🙂 And if you’re ready for more 1:1 help in every relationship, hit the Coach With Me link, and let’s chat about how I can help 🙂 ~Be Blessed, Jenny xoxo
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~JENNY RIEFLIN MINISTRIES~ 