***Disclaimer: By “mistreated” I am not speaking about abuse***
Being hurt by our spouse or hurting our spouse is the last thing we ever think of when we are planning our wedding, right? Instead, we have dreams of how wonderful life will be once we are finally married. But you will be mistreated by your spouse and you will mistreat your spouse. You will be taken for granted by your spouse and you will take your spouse for granted. Why do I say this? Because you are a human and you married a human.
Marriage is a lifelong dance, with one partner, of laying down your life, wants, and desires because that is what it means to be more like Christ and that is what Christ did for us. If you want to be married you must have your eyes be fully open that THIS is your curriculum for the rest of your life! To study and learn your spouse and to learn how to put your own selfishness under. To learn what unconditional love truly means! But when you are both up for the task and each “prefers one another” it can be “heaven on earth”. But don’t expect “Heaven on Earth” unless you’re willing to sacrifice and sometimes be betrayed like Jesus was. It means being sinned against and not sinning. It means forgiving and asking for forgiveness, again and again and again. And just because you sometimes fail at loving well, it doesn’t mean you are failing. It means you are human.
Having “Heaven on Earth” means learning how to operate from that heavenly kingdom while still on earth! It means growing in the revelation of God’s endless love for YOU and how that revelation then propels YOU to walk free from all condemnation and that you can now live free from all the expectations you pile on your spouse that they were never meant to fulfill.
No matter what you may be facing in your marriage today, don’t forget to tell your spouse, “Thank you for choosing me. Thank you for joining your entire life to mine. I appreciate you.” Because no one else on Earth, other than Jesus, CHOSE YOU! We know that Earth is not our real home, but we were meant to fully enjoy the journey. So, take their hand often and remember that you are both just walking each other home. ❤ ~Be Blessed, Jenny
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~JENNY RIEFLIN MINISTRIES~ 