Did Your Heart Feel Sick As Soon As You Saw The Text?

Your phone buzzes while you’re going about the normal business of your day.

You don’t look right away and keep measuring and sprinkling the spices into the simmering pot on the stove top.

You wipe off your hands and take a glance at your phone.

You see it’s a message from your adult son or daughter.

Did your heart feel sick as soon as you saw the text?

Why is that?

The message is short, but they seem upset.

Maybe they are having a hard time at work and fear they’ll lose their job.

Maybe they had another misunderstanding with their significant other.

Maybe they are short on their rent and feeling panicked.

Does THEIR panic need to become YOUR panic?

Your brain tries to sell you a story that it does.

That it indicates you’re a good mom if you match their emotions.

But they have friends that can fill that need for them.

You, as a mama, have been given a higher role.

As moms of adult children, we can listen, we can hold a safe space for them to figure out their options, we can encourage, but we are not required to rescue them from hard things.

Our job is to let them know they are not alone in the hard things.

Hard things are vital part of life.

They help us to develop our faith muscles and to learn how truly resilient and capable we are.

Our brains are wired with alarm systems to keep us safe from danger.

Our adult children going through hard things FEELS dangerous, but it’s not.

It’s part of living fully alive.

Sometimes we need to remind our brains that everything is okay, nothing has gone wrong.

We don’t want to keep jumping in and taking away from them the opportunities to build those muscles and learn confidence in themselves.

Because confidence is what comes AFTER we’ve done something over and over again.

So, we must shift from being the CAPTAIN in our children’s boat, to being the LIGHTHOUSE on the shore.

A lighthouse is steady, reliable, and a constant beacon continually leading them to help of their Father.

As mothers we can take refuge in how much God loves our children.

After all, they are HIS children before they are ever ours.

Are you a Mama who would like some support in this season of parenting adult children, I’d love to help you learn some tools of emotional resilience, and how to create for yourself the most peaceful experience of your motherhood journey! Hit the Coach with Me link today and let’s set up a time to chat. It’s going to be okay ❤ XO, Jenny

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