Challenges are what make us strong.
If a baby is never allowed to crawl, to explore, to fall again and again how will they learn to walk?
How will they learn to develop their muscles and their confidence in their own ability?
We are growing right alongside our children, no matter how old we are when we are blessed with them.
And with every new baby we are given, we have never parented THIS child, in THIS particular season of their life.
Very often, when our kids are young, we may think we have a “challenging” child.
But we don’t.
At least it’s not challenging in the way we may think it is.
What we often have is a child who tests OUR patience and OUR OWN ABILITY to REGULATE OUR EMOTIONS.
Perhaps your young adult child is not doing what YOU think they should be doing with their life.
Or quite possibly what you know the Word of God tells us they should be doing.
That can cause us to spiral out in worry and fear, right?
We, mamas, have God’s unique nurturing quality deeply embedded in every fiber of our being and we truly enjoy being needed, most of the time 😉
While we will always be a parent (noun) we should no longer parent (verb) our adult children. Crossing this line will always cause some form of resentment, by either the parent or the child, and unnecessary expectations that are no longer healthy to fulfill by either party.
As parents, we often don’t know where to draw the line and we can continue to try to parent our adult children, which is a lane we were never designed to swim in. Therefore we are not anointed or graced for it and it will always be a less-than experience of how God designed our relationship to be.
The truth is our adult children no longer need us to parent them. And I think that is a wonderful thing! You’ve done the work of raising them, discipling them, and training them for adult life. When they make mistakes you’re no longer responsible for cleaning up their mess. You simply get to delight in them! And encourage them to have confidence in THEIR ability and their ability to hear from God.
They now longer NEED us, but we’d like them to WANT us, right?
I believe this is the SWEET SPOT of MOTHERHOOD!
We GET TO be that supportive presence, who is so EMOTIONALLY SOLID that our adult children feel SAFE COMING HOME TO and know we will always hold them in the highest regard and hold the HIGHEST BELIEF in them, even if they don’t yet have the ability to believe in themselves.
We’re no longer the captain in their boat steering and controlling their adventures, but that beautiful lighthouse on the shore, always there when storms come, always leading them to a SAFE HARBOR.
Want to learn how to care for YOURSELF so YOU can embrace this new season of parenting with the awe and wonder for all the BEAUTY it CAN HOLD? DM me or Email me at jenny@transformedlifecoach.com today and let’s set up YOUR FREE 45-minute DISCOVERY CALL to learn about working together! ~Be Blessed, Jenny xo
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~JENNY RIEFLIN MINISTRIES~ 